When I say I want something, I mean I’m willing to put in the work to get it. It’s a small shift I made in my vocabulary a few years ago that has made me much happier person.
Rather than having an almost infinite list of desires, when I think about something , I think about how I would get it. There are many things that it simply doesn’t matter what that work is, I’m willing to go after it. I want them. There are things where…it depends. And there are others that are extremely valuable to someone else and I wouldn’t even contemplate donating an iota of effort for. I don’t want them.
It helps you be happy for other people. When you appreciate the work they’ve put in for what they have. It helps you be happy for what you have because of the work you’ve done for it.
Now there are people who have things you would love without putting in any effort whatsoever. C’est la vie. You’re that person to someone too. It’s a pointless arithmetic to think like this.
It’s ,for me, much more rewarding to think of things in the context of how much effort I’m willing to expend to get them. It quite often makes me reevaluate how much effort I can give and how do I give more. Where am I wasting it?